Comic Chat: Rat Queens #1 – #2

Let’s chat about the NEW Rat Queens!


If you haven’t watched my Whatchya Reading video that I released earlier this month and/or haven’t been paying attention, Rat Queens is back! That’s right, the fearsome foursome has returned to crassly save your ass…ly.

If anyone remembers, because it was a big deal and the reason Rat Queens ultimately went down in a ball of flames, a ton of drama happened regarding Upchurch (a FORMER artist on the comic), Tess Fowler (also former but she was great) and Kurtis Wiebe (the writer of the comic). To summarize, Upchurch is a wife-beater, questionable choices were made by Wiebe and Tess got the hell out. You can read more on it HERE because I don’t want to focus on it too much as it enrages me. Moving on. It’s back and the third issue with be dropping in July it seems.

What to know about Rat Queens:

1. The comic originally focused on a group of four extremely strong, diverse and magical ladies who have formed a badass bounty hunting group for hire. They are looked down upon by other groups/guilds and often find themselves in the thick of a bad situation.



  • Hannah, a super powerful half-demon mage with a fowl mouth.
  • Dee, the atheist cleric cult leader of a clan that worships something akin to Cthulhu.
  • Betty, a “smidgen” who gets high on candy and other such sugary treats.
  • Violet, the rebellious dwarf who very well might be the strongest physical fighter in the series so far.

There are of course other characters but, those are your main girls. They recently added another Rat Queen to the group, a transfer technically, and it’s great.

2. There are a ton of sex jokes, unladylike conversations, tender moments and everything is fantastic. As someone who is more unladylike than my mother would like me to be, this comic speaks to me. The Rat Queens feel like friends… is that weird?

3. The cosplay potential is TOO DAMN HIGH! I’m already planning to debut Dee (I know so many have done her already, whateves) at BlerdCon this June! I love Dee for her shy demeanor, big hair and even bigger books! Additionally this will be my first [completed and for me] cosplay!

4. It’s something different. It’s not filled with ultra moral characters who always know what the right thing to do is. It’s not filled with a ton of power creep (see any anime series of you do not understand what power creep is). It’s not the same body type over and over just drawn with a different hair style either, everyone looks unique. This comic is just so impressive and it’s a fun read.

I could go on and on about how happy having this comic back and running as made me but, in the interest of getting you guys to go get it faster, I’ll stop here. Seems sufficient!

If you have already been reading this lovely roller coaster of a comic, let me know! Let’s talk about it for hours over sweets and tea. If you haven’t and want to know more, then feel free to hit me up on any of my social medias. I’m lonely and work from home, trust me, I’ll respond.

UPDATE: after my post, @Shanjams84 responded with valuable information on the situation involving the drama previously mentioned. She makes it clear that Tess was never meant to be a placeholder while seemingly shady things went on. 






Big thanks to @shanjams84 for the information. It’s comepletely understandable that she couldn’t  provide more information as this is still on-going it seems. 

Hugs and Kisses XO – Neeks


What is an Event Planner or a Wedding Planner? Let this dummy explain.


For the LONGEST time I assumed that there was absolutely no reason for a person to outsource the details and duties of their wedding, social or corporate event to someone paid to be there. It made absolutely no sense to me why someone could not plan their own wedding or their own child’s birthday party– then I got older.

While I may get an extreme type-A personality boner from planning things out, most people do not. Planning can be very stressful on a person when they have five million other things to worry about besides where Aunt Josephine is going to sit. A ton of people get anxiety when you ask them if they want eggshell or ivory tablecloths. I have seen people go into a fit of rage over why gravity chooses to make their banner specifically slouch an inch too far in the middle. Yes, their banner and yes, it’s them against gravity. When I finally started to realize that people hated planning and I loved planning to an almost unhealthy degree, it started to make sense as to how the wedding planning and event planning industries have been thriving for forever. I almost feel dumb for not realizing it sooner. Almost.

When it came to weddings, I was especially put off. It’s MY big day, why would I have someone else making decisions for me. Again, that’s the type-A coming out. When I was younger, if my mother did not get everything 100% for my birthday, I would silently pout and think of all the ways my five year old self could have done better with my measly piggy bank savings and my young wits. Now, I am not married, but if you’re reading this and think I don’t already have a road map for that day then, you have not been reading very closely. Here is why, I’m 90% certain I will be hiring a wedding planner when my time comes. The unaccounted 10% is for if I go into a random fit of rage or something. Anything can happen.

  1. A Wedding Planner provides fresh eyes and a level head. This will be totally necessary for me because my affinity for planning does not ever factor in my tendency to dream big. If I say I want 12 white stallions to pull me from my house to the church steps while Childish Gambino sings to me, the wedding planner will point out every reason why that is just not going to happen. This is important.
  2. A Wedding Planner’s job is to help you stay in the realm of reality (based on your budget and the laws of physics) and to get you the best deals with wedding vendors. Wedding Vendors meaning: bridal hair, makeup and nail salons, wedding dress sellers, tux sellers, flower sellers, table rentals, venues, decor, so on and so forth. They often have people in their roster who will offer exclusive deals when you book through that planner. Remember, they want to get paid so, they are going to help you save the most you can elsewhere.
  3. A Wedding Planner’s reputation is everything to them. This is not a job where they show up, give you advice and go on their merry way. They will spend hours and days behind the scenes getting things ready for you. They will research the absolute best vendors for what you want, they will be there when you have a mental breakdown three weeks before the big event and they will be doing all of this with a smile on their face. There are way too many professions out there where if someone does a terribad job, they still get paid and they will still get business because people just do not care. This is not one of them. A wedding planner can be made or broken by one B.B.F (bride bitch fit) and, in understanding that as a very real danger, they do their best every single time.
  4. When you look crazy, they have your back. This one is pretty self-explanatory but, once you start grilling the florist on why they don’t have a flower in this specific shade of purple, your wedding planner is going to be the reason you get the shade or at least a close approximation.
  5. On the day of, you can enjoy being a bride/groom instead of worrying if everything is setup. This is so important. I cannot imagine seeing anything worse than a bride, half primped, running around setting up tables and ushering people to their seats when she should be getting ready for her grand moment. Having your planner there to coordinate the day of is so necessary! Honestly it’s amazing to me that more people do not think of this.
  6. They will take care of clean up most of the time. Let’s be real, some planner packages may not include cleanup. The one’s that do, however, are invaluable! Think about it, you’ve said “I do,” had the reception, your groom carries you to the limo and… you guys get back out because you need to clean up and/or supervise cleanup. Nah. That is not happening to me.

In short, I have seen the errors of my past thoughts. A wedding or an event planner is completely necessary and entirely legitimate and I want to say sorry for all the times I doubted you all. I was extremely naive!



Disclaimer: I do work for a super excellent wedding and event planner now. This is not an attempt at butt-kissery, but merely a way to show people that I too knew nothing like Jon Snow. 

Hugs and Kisses XO – Neeks

STEAMPUNK and Steamy Babes

Over the weekend I had the chance to dawn an entire outfit created and accessorize by Austin Vestal owner and operator of Corsets and Cogs in Salisbury, Maryland. I had seen his designs on some of my favorite models in the DMV area and never once thought I would have a chance to wear them myself. Honestly, I thought I’d never have the chance because of my skin color. 
I know what you’re thinking, “don’t make it about race, Neeks!” I wish I didn’t have to but, I just haven’t seen a large amount of POC model’s in the steampunk or alternative fashion scenes. I have seen some in alternative spaces, sure, but the steampunk scene, maybe three total. I LOVE Steampunk fashions, I love steampunk stories but, I just have not seen women who look like me in those fashions or stories. This was such an actualizing and fulfilling experience. 

How did this all come to be? 

It all started when talking to a friend of mine (Amelia Renee). I love steampunk, I’ve said this before, and she really likes the style of Sucker Punched the movie so, we decided it’d be a good idea to do a shoot in those styles. She pulled in Lolita, who pulled in Jessica (The Gothic Anachronist), who pulled in Austin! It was the perfect storm of knowing the right people.

Now with four girls and super sweet product, it was definitely a worry of mine that something would go wrong. Something did early on, I won’t get into it right now as it’s not conducive to the post but, it did make me worry that this beautiful opportunity to model designs I really love was going to poof and go away. I definitely felt like suddenly my chance was gone. However, things somewhat resolved and I was comfortable continuing forward with plans. 

The outfits were all specially made for each model! Everything sans a few pairs of tights and few amazon orders (glasses, wigs, etc). The themes were explorer, industrialist, lady of the court and regal. You can imagine which one I went for. REGAL! I wanted to get my queenie on.

The day itself was absolute magic. Despite the two hour drive, accidental toll road hit and the fact that I didn’t take nearly as much behind the scenes as I wanted, it was AWESOME! Everyone came together to make it work. When I say that the positive energy was thick, I mean it.

As you know all know, I’ve had poor experiences with mostly female creative endeavors (see my post about Senior Year Slasher). This was such a welcome relief! On top of working well, I believe I’ve made some long-lasting friends. 

In any case, please watch and enjoy the behind the scenes video I made of all the cheeky girls. If it pleases, please like and subscribe to my channel as well. 

Until next time! 

Neeks 💋

Riverdale Episode 2! 

My last review for this series made it clear that I was apprehensive yet intrigued about this series. Episode two still has me in a wishy-washy wonderland of emotions but overall, I’m in it! Will this be my newest guilty pleasure? Yes, yes it will. 

Let’s get into the review!

Last episode we got small bits of information:

– Archie doesn’t love Betty.

– Veronica loves Betty:

– Betty’s mom is prejudice against redheads and rich people.

– Moose’s name does not reflect properly upon the size of his genitalia.

– Jason was shot.

– TILF Grundy and Archie heard the gunshot during their illicit meetup.

This episode doesn’t do much in the way of solving questions you have honestly (it’s the second episode so why would it). However, it does submerge you further in this world of passionate weirdness and classic Cheryl Blossom insults. 

This episode does not shy away from the bullethole in Jason Blossom’s dome or his bloated, discolored and water-logged body. Sorry if that was graphic. They follow that image with Archie’s abs so I guess it’s a balancing act. 

In the beginning of this episode Betty and Archie are still at odds. This leads to Archie taking a shirtless run to TILF Grundy’s house, normal. Grundy answers the door, they have a discussion and ultimately she convinces him to not tell anyone about the gunshot they heard during their early morning rendezvous. Who has a booty call at 6AM? Honestly? It just seems a bit much even for this unholy teache-student union. It was summer! Sleep in or something damn.


Betty’s mom is still on her anti-redhead and anti-rich kid agenda. There may some hints at her abusing her husband as well. Betty, despite telling her mother that she’d never talk to Archie, Cheryl or Veronica again, asks Archie to walk her to school. They are “cool,” a high school term used to describe a girl who is still in love with a boy but doesn’t want him to know even though he clearly knows. Was that confusing? That’s high school for you.

Betty also tells Kevin that she’d never forgive Veronica but, once presented with yellow roses and cupcakes, forgives her. This forgiveness is “the path of least resistance,” for Betty and that’s okay. We’ve all been there, girl. Personally, I super identify with Betty because you really see the stress, agitation, frustration and sadness really getting to her despite her best efforts at containing it. This is a HUGE piece of her character. She wants everyone to be happy, wants everything to be okay for everyone so, instead of voicing her concerns, something that would obvious upset various people, she stays tight-lipped. 

In an effort to get you all to watch the show instead of coming here to just read the cliff notes version, just know that Betty does go a little Girl Interupted during the episode. She returned to sweet Betty but… goodness gracious. She has darkness in her. It is only for a moment but, I was worried that she was actually going to hit someone. I would have preferred it I think.

There was not a lot of Veronica in this episode. Her story mainly revolved around trying to get Betty to forgive her. She even offered a mani-pedi date which Betty abused. Shame on Betty!  You find out that her mother is working at Pop Tate’s as well. Interesting. She also takes a walk with Archie and they both basically talk about how in love they are with Betty. If you don’t love Betty then you are probably Satan. 

Speaking of Satan, Cheryl Blossom is #riverdalestrong. During this episode you see more of her being her rather bitchy self. You see that people are in fact questioning her about what happen to her brother. She has to constantly prove that she is fine (or at least that’s what she thinks). Besides being the HBIC she is also seen rapping and having an emotional breakdown during his episode during which she tells Veronica (who came to comfort her) that Jason was “supposed” to come back. Curiouser and curiouser! 

What does this mean? I was 100000% percent sure that Cheryl had shot Jason in his dome up until that moment. That line leads me to believe that she may have had a part in his disappearance but nothing to do with his death. How? I have no idea so I will need to keep watching. 

Jughead finds out about the gross affair Grundy and Archie are engaged in when he catches them sensually touching each other’s fingers. Different strokes I guess. Despite this, not only is the friendship rekindled but Archie tells Grundy that he wants to be with her but he has to do what’s right. Classic Archie Andrews move! I love it.

At the end of the episode the cops come for [my number one suspect] Cheryl Blossom. Shocker right? Even more shocking is that she stood up in front of the class and declared herself guilty. This reaffirmed that she was indeed not guilty of killing Jason in my opinion. It’s too easy. This can easily be written into twin guilt. I sincerely think she and Jason were doing something less than wholesome, they were always creepy to me. I think they made some stupid teenage plan/prank and it ended with an unplanned bullet in Jason THUS she feels guilty. She FEELS guilty but is not guilty. She is a drama queen and therefore this whole theory works. However my theory could change completely once the new episode airs.

In conclusion, I may already be super invested in this show and think you should all join in the mysterious, angsty fun. Already watching? Share your thoughts with me! 





Apartment Chronicles: A New Drama Emerges

Living in an apartment seemed like a good idea until I realized that I really hate sharing my space with strangers when my spaces isn’t to be shared. Don’t get me wrong, there are some super great people in the small building of the complex but, there are also some horrifically entitled and awful people here.

First we dealt with the loud partiers above  us. They had parties every weekend for about two and half months. We tried being cool about it but, when you have work in the morning, you simply cannot let that stuff slide. When you live in an apartment you must be extra mindful of those around you. Especially when you live in an old building (as we do). They took it fairly well by the way. They kind of calmed down after the cops were called the third time. I think they finally got the message after we had to go to management and formally write them up. Again, both me and my SO did not want to be “those” people but, come on! 

Today’s drama started when I finally found the key to the storage room. I went in and was really excited to finally get some of the crap out of our apartment and LO AND BEHOLD the people below us (and over one) decided to take our unit. They plastered over our number and everything, ya’ll. I mean that puppy was full of their stuff. So, me being me, I asked myself if it was worth it to cut the lock off and throw all of their stuff around the room. I decided against it and called up management, informed them of the issue and sent a long email containing proof (pictures, video, etc). When we first moved in, I took a video of me visiting the storage unit and everything so there was proof from basically last year that unit belongs to the apartment. So, here we are battling neighbors again.

There are a ton of legal issues with what they did but I’m waiting to hear back from management before I move on it. If you are ever going through anything similar, feel free to message me about it! We can commiserate! Until next time, love!

❤ Neeks 

Riverdale: Hot Mess or Trash You Can Get Behind

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As a rule of thumb, I give all new series a three episode buy in. This means that I will commit to watching at least three episodes of the premier season before I write it off or watch it religiously. If I like the show, I will keep watching, if not, I will wait until it’s on Netflix and use it as background noise while I sew or blog. There is no in between!

So, is this show a hot mess or something that is about to become my new obsession? I still have one more episode to go before I make that decision but, so far, it’s trash TV I can get behind.

Let me be clear, it’s trash not because it is terrible, it’s trash because of it’s style, trashy. It has very noticeable notes of Gossip Girl, Vampire Diaries, Dawson’s Creek and so many other trash TV shows that we like because of it’s grossly exaggerated teen angst and [what is meant to be] taboo sex scenes. I know what you’re thinking, how could the CW turn wholesome Archie comics into a stew of hormones and sin? Well, it is the CW and I love them for it. Plus, the reason it has hints of all of those previously mentioned shows is because there are people on the Riverdale team from some of those shows. It was inevitable.

So, two episodes have premiered so far, let me catch you up if you haven’t been watching.

Episode 1 Review GO:

The good:

  • The great part about this episode is that it establishes Jughead as the voice of reason and narrator. Well, really he is just writing his novel about the events that transpired over the summer.
  • You get a clear look into the various dynamics of everyone’s friendships and relationships. Kevin and Betty are besties and they do not shy away from his sexual orietation (not that they would). Veronica is the new girl, but shunned in this incarnation instead of welcomed and adored right away. She wants to be friends with Betty and has a heart after fooling around in a closet with Archie. Old Ronnie would not have cared. Archie and Jughead aren’t “friends” persay which sucks but you know that immediately. You can clearly tell that more people hate the Blossom family than like them. The list goes on but, the point is that they did a very good job of explaining that this Riverdale is not the same as the comics we grew up with, it is a bit different.
  • Josie and the Pussycats. Enough said.
  • Betty is probably the closest to her original characterization than anyone honestly and, personally, I love that.
  • Not to shoe-horn this in but this cast is diverse! Just take a gander as some of the faces here:

Reggie Mantle

Check out the new Pussycats! This is from episode two, but they are so fierce!

The list goes on and on with how diverse this cast is. I love it.

  • This series right off the bat has elements of both the old Archie Mysteries series (am I old yet?) and Roberto Aguirre-Sacasa’s flakey, yet compelling, Afterlife with Archie series. This icould be because he write for both the comic and for Riverdale. Cheater or genius?
  • “You want fire, well, my specialty is ice.” Veronica to Cheryl.
  • All of Kevin’s lines are pure gold in this episode.

The Bad:

  • In the current comic reincarnation Betty is more of a tomboy type character and they made her rather girly in Riverdale. Personally, I don’t care, she is still a golden sunbeam and too sweet for this world, but I know others may hate that.
  • Betty’s mom is a terri-bad, hateful shrew. Perhaps prejudice against anyone not blonde? Not enough information. She definitely hate redheads.
  • The story revolving around the relationship between TILF Grundy and Archie is just so unappealing.
  • Why did Josie have to be a complete and total witch when Archie asked for help? Josie is supposed to be super nice. Maybe it was just for this episode but still. Poor Archie.
  • Archie is a horrible human being who chose the cop out of “it’s not you, it’s me.” The thing that gets to me about the whole Betty/Archie situation is that he KNEW she had feelings, deep feelings, for him and he couldn’t find a better time to let her down other than AFTER making out with Veronica and sending poor, sweet Betty into an emotional tailspin. I’ve been there, girl.
  • Moose and Kevin. Before you try and pitchfork me, I’d like to say that I don’t care if Moose is gay or not, I care that he is in a relationship with Midge and cheating on her with Kevin. Don’t worry, Kevin will address this next episode.Plus it’s not like anything happened with them because they found Jason’s dead body, gun shot wound and all.
  • I just don’t like TILF Grundy and hope she stops being a weird succubus cougar…. or becomes a better one. That could be interesting.

By the end of Episode one I was convinced that Cheryl had done it. She killed her brother in the Afterlife with Archie series so why wouldn’t she do it in this series, right? I have since changed my theory completely. Then again, there are only two episodes so, my guess is as good as yours on what happened.

Anyway, I hope you enjoyed this review of episode one of Riverdale. You can find a review for episode two later once I rewatch it. If you have no knowledge whatsoever of Archie or the Archie comics franchise, do not worry, you’ll probably enjoy this show. If you enjoy silly “teen” dramas you’ll definitely like this show. This is some trash you can definitely sink your teeth into… I could have phrased that better.

Thank you for reading! Come back for more!



Negative Energies and You!

We live in rough times. It seems like everyone is scrambling while the privkedged few have everything. Very often it may feel like you just cannot get you footing and move forward. I’ve mentioned before that I have depression and anxiety disorders, that sucks, and they definitely made calming myself and balancing out my energies a lot harder than it needed to be in the past. So, I thought I share a story and share my super easy process to ridding myself of negative energies and thoughts! 

Yesterday was the final day in a line of super gray, super rainy, just all around awful days this month. I was starting to really feel the effects of that. I felt slower, lazier, unmotivated to do anything of value to my life. I also realized just how far behind I had gotten on some projects, got into the dumbest fight with a friend, found out that one of my model’s was going to break her contract, and (this is the kicker) the orange elect may have cost me my job with his stupid hiring freeze.

I was a mess. A hot, sweaty mess. 

So I spent the day getting bombarded by negative texts, having negative messages pummel my FB, and feeling like some form of crappy turtle. I tried working out the frustration but even then, the messages got to me. 

So how did this all solve itself? It didn’t. My friend chose to push my buttons and block me from seeing her statuses, petty. The model may or may not understand that I will take her to court. This is my art. The job thing is way in the air and I don’t know if it’s coming down. It was just all too much. 

I spent some time talking to some good friends about the various situations, friend who don’t yell at me over insignificant issues that are solved through logic, and they let me know that I handled most of it the best I could. One friend let me have it about getting down about the job so hard. Her points were completely valid and I love her. Immediately after I began the negative cleanse. It’s super easy and I’ll list the steps for you.

1. Pull up your favorite playlist.

2. Gather your favorite aromatics.

3. Arrange those thing in the bathroom and turn on the hot water until the bathroom is full of steam while brushing your hair.

4. Turn down water if you need to, get in shower.

5. Wash away all the negative thoughts and energies. Stay in as long as you need to.

6. Get out, dry off, go to bed.

See! Super easy and it works. 

Today I woke up to a face full of sun and boy, did it feel good. I feel rejuvenated. I feel like yesterday happened but it was stupid so I don’t care about it. With these sunbeams I have moved on and I am in a better headspace. LETS DO THIS! 

/rantingandrambling lol.